I put up a poll asking first - for your own wedding - did or didn’t you do thank you notes. Not only were people polling, but sending comments on their opinion, and all comments were actually about how thank you notes are an absolute yes! I then polled guest opinions - do you expect a thank you note after you attend a wedding - and yes came out on top also. Followed by - I don’t mind, and then coming in last with 21% was no.

I wanted to share this as I found it was interesting how many people were actually very disappointed when they didn’t receive a thank you note.

From the couple’s point of view - weddings are expensive and time consuming. 

Once the wedding celebrations end, and the honeymoon is over, they return back to real life of family, work and commitments. To begin hours of thank you notes can just be too overwhelming. Then also, some couples just don’t see it as necessary - they thanked you sincerely for coming to celebrate their wedding day in-person. 

From the guest’s point of view - weddings are expensive and time consuming. 

To be a guest can involve a lot of pre-wedding day commitments also - engagement party, hen/stag party, bridal shower, rehearsal, day after wedding party. To attend the pre-wedding events and wedding day can involve days off work, childcare, new outfits, flights, taxi’s, car rentals, hotel rooms, meals and drinks etc. Therefore, when a guest is also putting a generous cash gift into a card, they want to know it was received and appreciated. I suppose like any gift giving - it is an act of generosity, so you always like to hear back from the person that they loved and appreciated the gift given.

Personally, I agree with thank you notes - especially if it is a destination wedding. I think it is a thoughtful and appreciated touch. I know buying another set of cards can be expensive, handwritten can be extremely tedious and then posting them all can be very costly - but there are more options. 

If you prefer to post - buy an inexpensive design with a printed message. Then you can choose a little added handwritten note on some for people who are very close to you, or helped a lot with the planning.

If you prefer no handwriting or postage, and would like a more sustainable option - you could design a digital thank you. Again, adding in personal messages to some of them. This would be a perfect opportunity to share some of the official wedding photographs with everyone also.

There are opinions on both sides, which is why I wanted to share these results. There are people genuinely disappointed that they did not receive a thank you note, and then there are others that absolutely do not expect anything and would not have even thought about a thank you note arriving.

Thank you ☺